Dashing Thru Delight Even Tho the Christmas Lights Seem Dim
Wrap up that delight and spread it’s gifts among everyone you see. Put a bow on a more extensive “hello” to the grocery clerk. Go beyond the “how are you” generic greeting. Smile at the couple passing you by even though you are no longer a couple. Listen to Christmas music and take some time to reflect on friends you haven’t seen in a while and call one of them. Take time out from shopping lists and do a kind act for a neighbor or your postman. Make some cookies for some cops. Send a thank you to your priest. And in wearing the cloak of kindness, spread some on yourself. Bask in the breezes of a stroll through nature. Notice the colors and scents as you walk.
Recently a friend and I were sharing the losses of our best friends, my husband and her fiancé. We agreed that we are wearing a thin vest, a vest that lacks insulating us from sadness. Grief is like the ocean. A huge wave can overtake you and knock you down. The only way to get back up is to sit with it for a little while Let the tears come, talk to your loved one, write him a letter. And then cherish the memories, look at photos and write down notes of gratitude. Feel the wave of grief calming down and call someone you trust.
My friend and I shared how kindness somehow soothes our grief. A text from someone checking in with us, a surprise gift of soup or cake. A friend asks “how are you doing?” and their eyes and voice say they really want to know.
We left our lunch visit with a renewed sense of the importance of showing value to others, and to ourselves.
I went home, played some Christmas music, decorated my mantle with angels, reindeer and pine leaves. So missing my husband, and yet feeling the Joy of Christmas.